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Why we created TwoXTopia - An online space created by women, for women
You might ask that there are already many social media apps available in the market so why did you make one more? And why should we use TwoXTopia when we can just simply post our pictures on Instagram, post our random thoughts on threads, post about national and international issues on twitter, post about random confessions as an anonymous user on reddit and post about normal questions on Quora.
I say that every app has its own place and its own specialty. I am not asking you to ditch one for another or to ditch one for TwoXTopia. Honestly, please keep doing all that. People in each of those sites would appreciate you content there more.
I really don't seem like a good marketer of my own app, do I?
Hold on, let me continue.
Let's imagine some scenarios. I hope you are still reading this. Let's go :
Scenario 1 :
You have a private account on Instagram. You post pictures of you having a good time, you comment on your friends pictures and you scroll endless reels that the Instagram algorithm dictates. Its all fun and games. As long as its with your friends.
But one day you comment on a popular meme page. Your comment goes viral. You get tons of likes. But then you also get dozens of friend requests. People really love my sense of humor, you think to yourself. You also end of getting an equal number of DMs in your other's inbox. You check it out. Somehow its all men. You dare check the DMs. Its all just saying "Hi", "Hey" or the variations of thereof. Some of them are creepy, which i would rather not go in detail.
Scenario 2 :
Remember the funny and informative reels that the algorithm recommends you? You saw one about Karnataka govt approving 12 menstrual leaves a year across all sectors. Kudos Karnataka govt, you think to yourself. You go to the comment section. You expect that it would be all appreciation in the comment section. But instead you see these kinds of comments from men saying this - "What about us? We also need extra leaves for hangovers or something", "Why do women need leaves for menstrual cramps? Getting kicked in the ball hurts more", "So many women are gonna misuse this, just like they do when they file fake dowry cases and ask for huge alimony citing fake domestic violence"
Mind you there are good comments too. From men and women. But the trolling, misogynist, derailing comments are almost always from men. Its good when you are on your post that only your friends can see. But on any public page? Its more trolling and less appreciation. Even if you read 2 bad comments and 8 good ones, its always the bad ones that stick with you for longer. Isn't it?
Scenario 3 :
You are new to Bangalore. You don't have a proper place to stay yet. You wanna ask someone "Does anyone know some good Ladies PG to stay in Bangalore near Jayanagar, JP Nagar or South End Circle?" But who do you ask this question to? You have hundreds on friends on Instagram, Facebook and offline too. But they are not from Bangalore. You have some guy friends from Bangalore but they obviously never lived in a Ladies PG. How can their opinion be reliable? A really good guy friend suggested one. He says its cheaper and near to what you are looking for. You go there and you realize there is a bar near it. Your see a drunken man sprawled on the pavement. You refuse to live in this PG because you know you will be coming late from office and you will be taking a metro but you will still need to walk 500 meters to reach your PG. The street light near the PG doesn't work, and its gets dark very quicky during winters. You don't feel safe. For your guy friend, none of these things registered in his mind when he suggested the PG. And why would it? He's a man. He doesn't feel threatened by other men. He's not afraid of the dark. He was always allowed to go for late night drives.
When he walks on a dark dimly lit road at night, his biggest worry is what if there's a pothole and he didn't see it. Your biggest worry is what if there is a group of men and they see you.
Now imagine this last scenario and I really hope you are still reading this.
Scenario 4 :
Imagine there is an app where its all women. And not just random women. Only a woman invited by another woman. There are no DMs so no one bothers you in private while saying good things to you in public. You post about women issues and you get comments from women only and unless its that one women who is too drenched in internalized misogyny and busy being a pick-me, its all good in the comment section. You see many posts here that one point you realize there are some topics where you see your internalized misogyny and pickmeness come out. But you read all these experiences from women here and you learn to be better. You realize your inherent biases.
Now you post a question like - "Does any one know a good living space for a woman in Bangalore near XYZ area?" and you set your filter to Bangalore. You get answers from women in Bangalore who have actually lived you scenario. Every comment is useful.
Its a good thing that you don't have to imagine any more scenarios. You have TwoXTopia now. Use it. Tell me what needs fixing. Help us improve it so that it suits your needs better. Let's create a sisterhood of trustworthy, amazing, and fabulous women. Let's further build TwoXTopia together!
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TwoXTalks Ep. 6 Recap: Is It Really Hard to Make and Keep Friends in Your 20s? 🫂💗
Remember when making friends felt effortless? Back in school, all it took was sharing the same favourite colour, sitting next to someone in class or venting about your least favourite teacher. Somewhere between graduation, jobs, moving cities and figuring out adulthood, friendship became a lot more complicated.
In this episode of TwoXTalks, the community explores what friendship looks like in your 20s and why maintaining meaningful connections can feel harder now than ever. From the awkward transition of turning colleagues into friends to dealing with trust issues and drifting apart from people who once felt like family, the conversation tackles a question many of us have asked: Why is it so hard to maintain friendships as we grow older?
One major takeaway is that distance is often a natural part of life. Whether it's relocating for work, getting married or pursuing new opportunities, different life stages can reshape even the strongest friendships.
The discussion also highlights how men and women often approach friendships differently. The men spoke about segregating their social circles, having different friends for work, hobbies or personal advice. The women reflected on the emotional investment that goes into friendships and how small gestures like replying to a story or checking in with a message, help to keep connections alive.
A standout moment was the introduction of the Chair Theory.
Imagine walking into a crowded room with your hands full. A true friend is the person who pulls up a chair and makes space for you at the table. They're the people who support you even when you're not around.
Click on this link to watch the full discussion: https://twox.in/post/yDdr-Episode-6-Is-it-really-hard-to-make-and-keep-fri
What is some advice you'd share with other women for maintaining friendships in their 20s? Comment below! 💌
Finding My People in a New City
Moving to Bangalore is always hyped up as this grand, picture-perfect adventure. You pack your bags, blast your playlist and imagine yourself sipping filter coffee by a window and just thriving effortlessly. But people don't really talk about the feeling that hits you the moment you move into your new place and you’re standing alone in an empty room.
I moved to this city less than a month ago and honestly, the silence at first was deafening. In the initial few days, just figuring out my daily routine felt like an obstacle course and the city just felt so big, and it made me feel incredibly small.
Soon enough I realized that what I was missing wasn't just a sense of direction, it was a sense of belonging.
That is why spaces like TwoXTopia matter so much to me right now. In a world that constantly expects us to be hyper-independent, there is so much comfort in admitting we need each other. We need spaces where we don’t have to perform, where we can share our anxieties about adulting, plan weekend catch-ups or just sit together at Cubbon Park and yap about everything that comes to mind.
Honestly, I don’t know where I’d be without the people I've met through this community and my workspace. Just a few weeks ago I felt entirely lost in the crowd, but having a space like this has definitely helped me find my footing. I’m just really grateful to have found a corner of this massive city where I don't have to figure it all out alone. If you’re sitting in a new room right now feeling overwhelmed, just know that your people are out there, and life gets easier once you find them. ✨💜
Meetup Recap: Imposter Syndrome
On Sunday, Twoxtopia hosted a community meetup on a topic that resonated with me on a very deep level: imposter syndrome.
What started as a simple conversation quickly turned into a space where people felt comfortable sharing their personal experiences with self-doubt, feeling undeserving of their achievements, and questioning whether they were truly capable. We spoke about our own journeys with imposter syndrome, the moments when it held us back and the ways we've learned to work through it.
One of the biggest takeaways from the meetup was realizing how common these feelings are. No matter where we are in life, many of us struggle with the fear that we're not enough. Hearing others open up about similar experiences was very comforting and reassuring.
We also talked about small but meaningful ways to cope with imposter syndrome, whether that's celebrating our progress, giving ourselves credit where it's due or simply being kinder to ourselves when things don't go as planned.
More than anything, the meetup reminded us that conversations like these matter a lot.
Sometimes, knowing you're not alone is the first step toward believing in yourself a little more.
Thank you to everyone who joined and shared a piece of their story.
I'm looking forward to attending more meetups, having more honest conversations and hearing the stories and perspectives that help us learn from one another. 🙂↕️❤️❤️
I want to shave my head entirely
Ever since I turned 20, I decided that I wanted to do 3 things before turning 30. Sort of like a lil bucket list. Getting a septum piercing, a tattoo, and shaving my head completely (and then letting my hair re-grow on its own). I'm happy to announce that I did get a septum piercing pretty recently 😋 (and im planning to get more piercings lol) and well a tattoo is reserved for later since i'd have to consult a dermat first, but I am really on the fence about shaving my head.
You ask me why i want to do that in the first place? Well, let's say it's a lil step towards self discovery, and testing my own boundaries. Because all this time i've managed to "look pretty" because of my hair, but sometimes it frustrates me. I don't want to depend on my hair to feel confident or feel good about myself and well, as someone with thin hair, I think i can do with a full shave to sort of start from scratch.
But you see, this is a very big step for me and I don't know when I should do this or how or... what I should expect. I've been thinking I could do it when I get a stable job but I also want to do this before getting married and that time window seems very small and lowkey risky to me.
If there's any advice you'd have regarding this or doing weird things in your 20s or anything at all, I'd love to hear it <3
Thanks for making it this far 🫵🏽🩷
I felt a bit overdressed
went to Sringeri, and everyone around me — my family included — was dressed very simply.
Meanwhile, I showed up in a half saree, and you know what?
I absolutely loved my outfit. 😌💅✨
For a moment, I could feel people judging me, like I'd gotten dressed up for some family function.
It felt a little awkward... for about 10 seconds.
Then I gave them a live demonstration of how little I care. 😎✨
If I'm going to be judged anyway, I might as well look good while it happens. 💅
Career Gaps, Late Starts, Unconventional Careers Meetup Recap (31st May)
"Don't worry about failing in exams. You can always get married."
A male classmate said that to me during my first year of MSc.
Ironically, both of us were struggling academically at the time.
I had gone to him hoping to vent about how badly things were going.
Instead, I got a reminder that many people still see men's careers and women's careers very differently.
The assumption was simple:
His career problems were a crisis.
Mine were temporary because marriage could always "solve" them.
But here's what people often misunderstand about women.
We don't pursue careers only because we need money.
We pursue them because ambition matters to us.
Passion matters to us.
Purpose matters to us.
Independence matters to us.
And when things don't work out the way we hoped, we feel that disappointment just as deeply as anyone else.
A few years later, after my own late career start and multiple detours, I created TwoXTopia. And also began hosting women's discussion meetups in Bangalore as a part of it.
Last week, I hosted one on career gaps, late starts, and unconventional career paths. I also hosted this last month because a lot of women turned up and were requesting to conduct it again because some of them couldn't make it.
Women from different age groups showed up.
Some were in the middle of a career break.
Some were trying to restart after years away.
Some had left careers they genuinely loved.
Some felt behind compared to their peers.
And some had already navigated these challenges and showed up simply to share what they had learned.
What struck me wasn't how different their stories were.
It was how similar the emotions were.
The shame.
The comparison.
The feeling that everyone else had somehow figured life out earlier.
For months now, I've hosted conversations around heartbreak, leaving home, friendship, life transitions, and confidence.
But career-related meetups consistently attract the deepest conversations.
Not because women are obsessed with work.
But because career struggles are one of the few challenges women are often told not to take seriously.
"Why stress so much? You can always get married."
The women I meet at these discussions tell a very different story.
They care deeply.
And sometimes all they need is a room full of people who understand that.
PS : We recorded a podcast on this topic long ago. During this meetup I wasn't able to tell my story fully, you can checkout the full podcast to know my and my colleague's full story here : https://twox.in/post/K9V9-Episode-5-The-truth-about-having-a-non-linear-ca
Checkout how this meetup went last time : https://twox.in/post/QExJ-Started-late-Took-a-break-Careers-that-don-t-al
I'm hosting a meetup on imposter syndrome on 7th June. Checkout the details in the Hangout section of the app to know more about it
PSS : If you can't see the reel attached to this post, it's a sign for you to update the app
suggest please
Suggest me some good non cliche movies to watch, bollywood, hollywood anything.
Some movies I love are
Call me by your name
Wolf of Wall street
Lucky Bhaskar
I guess y'all understand what typa movies I'm talking about haha
TwoXTalks Ep. 17 Recap: The ABCs of LGBTQ+ 🌈✨
Just because an issue doesn’t affect you directly doesn’t mean you shouldn’t care.
In this episode of TwoXTalks, the hosts go back to the basics to break down identity with a much-needed dose of empathy.
To understand the spectrum, we just have to look at three things:
- Sex (The Body): Chromosomes and biology. It’s not just a strict binary! Intersex individuals are born with unique biological variations, and the hosts emphasize the importance of bodily autonomy which means letting them grow up and make their own choices about their bodies.
- Gender (The Mind): How you feel inside. If your mind matches your birth sex, you’re cisgender. If it doesn’t, you’re transgender. (remember: A trans man is a man and a trans woman is a woman. Period. 💖)
- Sexuality (The Heart): Who you are actually attracted to and fall for.
This episode also clears up a major confusion around traditional Indian identities like Hijras or Kinnars. These are specific, rich socio-cultural communities; not a blanket term for anyone who happens to be trans.
The biggest myth busted? Being LGBTQ+ is not some "modern" or "western" concept and it’s definitely not "unnatural." History, ancient Indian temple art (hello, Khajuraho! 👀), and even the animal kingdom prove it has always been a part of nature and life.
At the end of the day, it all comes down to mutual consent and basic human rights. If someone’s identity isn’t hurting you, let them live their best life as you live yours. As the hosts reminded us, nobody chooses a path that brings them discrimination and hardship. It’s not a choice, it’s just who they are. 🌸
Understanding doesn't require personal experience, just an open mind.
Click on this link to tune in to the full episode and let us know your biggest takeaway: https://twox.in/post/4wQI-Episode-17-Understanding-the-ABC-of-LGBTQ
Let's look out for each other and keep learning. Happy Pride Month! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
The Hair Tie in Your Bag: Why Tiny Things Carry Big Stories
Every woman knows the ritual of digging through a bag and finding a lonely hair tie, a crumpled receipt, three pens that may or may not work or a lip balm that you thought had disappeared forever. At first glance, they're just random forgotten objects. But on second glance, they start to feel like tiny snapshots of our lives.
That old hair tie? Maybe it's the one you borrowed from a friend when your hair was all over the place after you said "it's just a walk in the park, how windy could it be?". The receipt? Proof of the iced coffee you bought to treat yourself after surviving a long and overstimulating day. The lip balm? A small act of self-care placed in the middle of a busy schedule.
It's funny how women's bags are full of surprises. They quietly collect pieces of our daily lives without us ever noticing until way later. They hold evidence of our rushed mornings, spontaneous plans, forgotten errands and even the moments of vulnerability as well as joy. Somewhere between the keys, chargers and pens are stories that never made it to your Instagram.
And that is exactly what makes them special.
In a world where we focus on celebrating the big achievements or major milestones, it's easy to overlook the tiny moments that meant most to us. And sometimes, it's those little objects that tell us the most about who we are. They remind us of the way we show up for ourselves and for the people around us and the way others show up for us too.
That hair tie isn't just elastic, it's friendship. That receipt isn't just paper, it's a reminder to celebrate our small victories. That lip balm isn't just a beauty product, it's care and comfort in the middle of chaos.
Maybe the "ordinary" things we carry everyday aren't ordinary at all.
What's your favourite object from your bag? I'd love to know the story behind it. 💌
