Why does dating feel so exhausting today?

Hi everyone!

I’m Varsha Devaraj, currently building something in the dating space

One thing I’ve consistently noticed (and heard from a lot of women) is how exhausting dating apps have become, it’s usually endless chatting, but very few conversations actually turn into real-life meetings

A big part of this is that most apps are designed to keep people engaged on the platform, and verification often isn’t strong enough, which affects how safe and genuine interactions feel

On top of that, a lot of apps charge even for basic features, which adds another layer of friction to an already tiring experience

That’s what led me to start working on Orchy

It’s a platform focused on helping people move towards real-life connections in a more intentional way, instead of staying stuck on the app, focusing on real offline experiences.

We’ve also put a strong emphasis on verification and safety, and designed the experience to reduce uncertainty and make interactions feel more comfortable, especially for women

This has been shaped through user research and lived experiences, understanding what actually builds trust in this space

We’re currently in the final stages before launch (starting with Bengaluru), and opening this up to an early set of users

If this resonates, you can check it out here and join the waitlist:
👉 https://orchy.in

👉 Once you join, you’ll also get access to the early WhatsApp community

Would genuinely love to hear your thoughts as well:
What has your experience been like with dating apps?