girl adviceeee
so yesterday i went out with my friends for karaoke night and we all a bit tipsy and all my guys friends are super respectful and chill except one i can tell he likes me, and i am not into him at all and i was very uncomfortable yesterday he held my hand without asking me and i let go immediately and ive been dry in my texts and also he tried taking a picture of us only and i felt weird :( i ducked and didn’t take it
i dont know how to handle this situation, that group is means alot to me and he is here behaving this way and i just want to out loud say i am not interested but dont want to be mean either but i also feel such guys cant be helped
i am thinking i will tell the other guys that this happened and i am a but uncomfy and to watch out for me, i know they will have my back if i do let them know, but i just feel super sad whyyyy are guyss like thisss
i mean i like people too but when i am see signs of disinterest at least i let go :(( and i definitely DO NOT pursue so aggressively
this guy kept trying to be near me, he calls me bro but its passive aggressive rather and weird, genuinely this is a hate post on nice guys who secretly don’t respect women and feel entitled
to me that just signals lack of respect for autonomy of the other, like you think you know better for someone who you dont even know and how can you say you like someone when you cant even respect their decision or boundary 😢😢
eitherway if i feel uncomfy next time we all meet, ill just tell one of the guys, do yall have any idea how to handle this situation ?
apart from this, i had a great evening and one of the best memories with some of the best people i know 🥲
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2Girl, it doesn't matter who it is. If they hurt you, they hurt you. And life is too short to entertain such people in life.
If they don't think twice before making you comfortable by doing things simply because they wanted to then you taking a stand for yourself doesn't make you a bad person.
You need to nip his behaviour in the bud else it'll escalate beyond repair.
First you tell him clearly what you feel. If backs off, well and good. If he doesn't the you tell your friend group and cut him off.
Also honestly you don't even have to tell him clearly that you aren't interested. He should have known by your body language that you aren't interested. Not everything needs to be spelled out. He's choosing to behave this way because he wants to.
So at this point you can directly skip the "talk to him clearly" step and cut him off of your life.
But if you still think that'll be awkward cutting him off without warning then you can give it a shot by explaining things to him.
for now ill just not draw any conclusion next time we meet hopefully i wont feel this way and i feel better knowing i could vent here and even inform someone in the group
🥹 i pray he just comes to his senses and leaves me alone and we can all move on otherwise we will have to move on without him 🥲🥲🥲