The Dating Debrief Meetup Recap (21st June, 2026 | Bangalore)

Why are men so triggered by women only spaces?

21st June, I posted about conducting a women-only meetup on Reddit around 6am.

Then I tried to get some sleep.

I had been awake the entire night, the meetup was only a few hours away, and registrations were lower than any paid meetup we had organised before.

Instead of sleeping, I spent the next few hours watching hate comments pile up.

→I was accused of discriminating against men.

→I was told I was commodifying loneliness.

→I was called predatory for charging money at all.

The funny part was that,

I've hosted 11 meetups so far.
8 of them were completely free.

Every Sunday, unless I was sick, I would show up at Lalbagh or Cubbon Park in Bangalore and host conversations for women.

The paid meetups happen once in a while.

The money goes into the venue, food, activities, games and goodies.

The hate recieved for charging people money wasn't really what bothered me.

What fascinated me was how many people seemed personally offended by the idea of women gathering without men.

Because the comments were the exact reason I created TwoXTopia in the first place.

I started TwoXTopia because I kept seeing women deal with trolling, hostility, creepy DMs and unwanted interactions online.

The idea was simple:

Create a space where women could feel comfortable speaking freely.

At first that space existed online.

Then I thought:

Why stop there?

So I started building it offline too.
By organising women only meetups regularly.

Now this meetup was the smallest paid meetup I've hosted.

And surprisingly it ended up being one of my favourites.

Despite only four women attending, the
conversations lasted much longer than expected.

We spoke about dating disasters, relationships, awkward experiences, funny stories and some surprisingly difficult realities.

At one point, I mentioned the comments I had received that morning.

The women already knew.

They had seen the Reddit thread.

So I asked:

"If you saw what was happening, why didn't any of you respond?"

One woman answered :
"I didn't want those men landing in my DMs."

And honestly?

That was a completely valid answer.

I've developed a thicker skin after months of doing this.

Most women shouldn't have to.

And that's exactly why spaces like these exist.

Not because women hate men.

Not because women want exclusion.

But because sometimes people just want one corner of the internet and the real world where they don't have to justify their presence.

The screenshots are from before the meetup.

The photos are from after.

Together, they explain why I keep doing this.